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The Pyramid of Personal Growth

The causes of the student mental health crisis are societal and, as a result, many children today miss psychological “lessons” crucial to normal child development and so lack emotional skills that previous generations used to learn by osmosis. Schools—and, particularly, teachers—can be an effective channel to deliver these messages, but teachers need support in implementing the necessary change in perspective required.

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The Pyramid of Personal growth

The causes of the student mental health crisis are societal and, as a result, many children today miss psychological “lessons” crucial to normal child development and so lack emotional skills that previous generations used to learn by osmosis. Schools—and, particularly, teachers—can be an effective channel to deliver these messages, but teachers need support in implementing the necessary change in perspective required.

Fortunately, children today are hard-wired for connection and growth the same way they have always been. In fact, they crave these things. So we can remedially teach these psychological lessons and thus dramatically improve the mental health of many of today’s kids.

What is the pyramid of personal growth?

Teachers are taught skills and strategies for having “elephant,” (societal ills that include the Overwhelming Tragedy List), and “gremlin,” (the negative self-talk in kids’ heads based on Rick Carson’s book, Taming Your Gremlin), conversations with their students in a safe way, incorporating lessons about these issues into existing curricula, and, importantly, how to identify student problems that are above a teacher’s pay grade so the kids who need it can get more help. The basis for this work is:

  • Talk, vent, and understand how the the Digital Age is affecting all of us—kids, families, ourselves, and schools.
  • The importance of working with the truth: develop a full understanding of the Digital Age and what we call “Outcome Fever,” with its many distractions and confidence drains. A discussion of the iceberg of student anxiety.
  • Why self-care is so crucial and provide techniques for educators to relieve their own stress.
  • Many parents use what we call the “New Parenting Playbook​,” which can have negative effects on kids; how educators can engender parent collaboration and avoid “commoditized” relationships with parents.
  • How Outcome Fever and “Digititis” exacerbate the effects of poverty, social injustice, and trauma.
  • Psychological underpinnings of the New Parenting Playbook (​Erikson​, Winnicott, etc.).
  • Critical need for collaboration with colleagues and parents to form a consistent “holding environment.”
  • Why a classroom culture that focuses on the journey, not results, is critical!

The importance of the Six i’s

Teachers now need to teach the rudiments of the Six I’s: imagination, independence, intimacy, integrity, and intestinal fortitude, which are critical building blocks to identity:
An introduction into the critical importance of imagination, being true to ourselves, and finding a sense of purpose, inspiration, and mission.

Teachers now need to teach the rudiments of the Six I’s: imagination, independence, intimacy, integrity, and intestinal fortitude, which are critical building blocks to identity:

  • An introduction into the critical importance of imagination, being true to ourselves, and finding a sense of purpose, inspiration, and mission.
  • Learning the positives of failure and using adversity to fuel success.
  • The overarching benefits of authenticity, independence, intestinal fortitude, integrity, and connection.
  • Specific lesson plans to begin to get students to understand these crucial qualities and how to begin to attain them.

Learning the positives of failure and using adversity to fuel success.
The overarching benefits of authenticity, independence, intestinal fortitude, integrity, and connection.
Specific lesson plans to begin to get students to understand these crucial qualities and how to begin to attain them.

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Why do these things happen?

The first step in the plan of attack is to understand why, exactly, these issues are affecting young people so badly, and who is at risk. We have defined a few key terms that we use in our program to explain the different phenomenon that you or a teen in your life may be feeling.

“Give your fear a name. Once it is named, it is understood, and it loses its power over you.”

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“The Overwhelming Tragedy List”

Threatening societal issues, such as school shootings, COVID, climate change, political rancor, etc., that our kids read about on their phones daily, yet very few adults talk about in a constructive way. We call these the Elephants in the Room.

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“Outcome Fever”

Often prevalent in high-achievers, athletes, and young creatives, this is where children are judged by their accomplishments, not who they are. Outcome fever often results in highly anxious individuals with no sense of self and identity outside what they are trying to accomplish, which can create problems later in life.

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“The New Parenting Playbook”

Protecting kids from all harm, hurt, failure, challenge, consequences, responsibility, independence, etc., contradicts what research has shown us about the needs for normal child development.

For deep dives into these terms, read the free eBook “Raising Kids in the Digital Age”.

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How does our program help?

Acknowledgement: Giving students a voice and allowing them to be heard
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Controlling the controllables
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Program Options --

Connect the Dots Video Series
We are excited to announce that to make this work affordable, scalable, and effective, we have developed a video format that allows people to learn our basic concepts on their own schedules. Our short, ~2 minute videos give our program “legs,” without requiring on-site workshops or scheduling.
– Access to online module
– Optional: presentation from Jeff
– Virtual contact & support

$50

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One-Time Team Workshop
Jeff’s in-person introductory program explains how we got here—the societal causes of this problem and how they have affected young people and adults. It then provides an outline of how to “soften players in order to harden them,” and how connection and vulnerability actually make for tougher players.
– 1:1 or team session
– Video learning series
– Virtual contact & support

$250

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A Transformative Season
The most effective way to create positive, lasting change is to set goals, develop relationships, and build trust, which takes time. Reoccurring workshops throughout the season are recommended to get the most out of Jeff’s Pyramid.
– Introductory workshop
– Customized lesson plan
– Regular workshops & check-ins
– Optional: Captains Summit

$2000

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