The Overwhelming Tragedy List

The Overwhelming Tragedy List

The world has always had difficult times. Thinking about the first half of the 20th century, for instance, we went from WWI to the 1918 flu pandemic to the Great Depression to WWII. That’s a lot.

The 24-hour News Cycle

Although families were obviously affected directly by the tragedies of the past, back then, if you weren’t affected directly, it was possible to compartmentalize them. Limiting your exposure was relatively simple: When you were done reading the newspaper, you were done getting the news. You could listen to the radio in the evening but be free of it the rest of the day. Even when television was ubiquitous starting in the 1960s, the news was for the most part limited to certain hours of the day: you could watch TV all the time, but your exposure to the news was still limited to the news shows. If you didn’t want your kids to be exposed, simply watching the 11PM news, after they went to bed, and not talking about the news in front of them took care of that problem.

Things aren’t so simple today, when we all, through our devices, are bombarded by the news 24/7. We literally can’t get away from it, and that includes our children. Once you give them a device, to a great extent you have given up any control you have over what they see. So they can watch ISIS behead a journalist or a police officer kill a Black man, or do research into how severe global climate change really is. As if that isn’t bad enough, there are all of the talking heads who so often appear on “news” shows and make things sound so much worse. It is easy for kids to get traumatized by these awful things, and there is very little you can do about it, short of taking your child’s phone away.

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Community Forum a Hit

Community Forum a Hit

Last month, Bishop Guertin High School hosted a community forum on mental health that was recorded on their YouTube channel. We were honored to partner with Bishop Guertin and Dartmouth-Hitchcock Health on this project. Read more

Virtual Community Forum on Mental Health

Virtual Community Forum on Mental Health

Jeff Levin Coaching’s Reconnection Project Co-Hosting Virtual Event on Stress and Anxiety in Young People

Join a virtual community conversation about mental health and young people with The Reconnection Project, Bishop Guertin High School, and Dartmouth-Hitchcock Health on Thursday, August 6, 7–8:30 P.M., on Bishop Guertin’s YouTube Channel.

Entitled Community Conversation: Stress, Anxiety, and Mental Health in Young People Amid COVID-19, the event was developed by Jeff in partnership with D-H’s Senior Director of External Affairs and former New Hampshire Supreme Court Chief Justice John Broderick, who has spear-headed a powerful public awareness campaign around the steps people can take when they recognize that they or someone they care about is experiencing mental health challenges. Ryan Day, head football coach at Ohio State and a native of Manchester, recorded some remarks for this event, and Bishop Guertin High School, in Nashua, has graciously volunteered to virtually host it on their YouTube channel.

The virtual event, which will feature a panel of speakers and presenters with diverse backgrounds in areas such as counseling, education, coaching, and law enforcement, will address the scope and depth of the challenges that young people face daily regarding mental health, stress, and anxiety and provide solutions on what we adults can do to help them.

The first hour includes speakers and presenters, followed by a thirty-minute panel discussion to further the discussion on young people and mental health.

Speakers and Presenters:

  • John Broderick, Senior Director of Public Affairs at Dartmouth-Hitchcock, former New Hampshire Supreme Court Chief Justice
  • Jeff Levin, Life Coach, Founder of The Reconnection Project
  • Ryan Day, Head Football Coach, The Ohio State University
  • Ken Norton, Executive Director, NAMI New Hampshire
  • Chief Mike Carignan, Nashua Police Department
  • Students and other presenters.

Tune in to “Community Conversation: Stress, Anxiety, and Mental Health in Young People Amid COVID-19” on Thursday, August 6, 2020, from 7–8:30 p.m. on the Bishop Guertin YouTube channel.

If you can’t join us on Thursday, the program will be available afterwards via YouTube link, which will be posted on this blog as soon as it’s available.

If you would like to host a forum in your community, don’t hesitate to get in touch:

Excessive Cell Phone Use and Mealtime Problems

Excessive Cell Phone Use and Mealtime Problems

We thought that this recent article in Contemporary Pediatrics on cell phone use and its effects on very young children would be of interest to our readers.

We cannot emphasize enough that you need to turn your phones off when you are with your children, even very young children. If they are older, have your children turn their phones off, too, when you are spending time together.

Once your phone is off, engage with your kids. Give them your full attention. Make eye contact. Have meals together—with everyone’s phone turned off. Be fully present; your child’s mental health depends on it.

One explanation of why young children react in this way to distracted parents is here. This subject has also come up in our first few podcast episodes.

The Reconnection Project Podcast!

The Reconnection Project Podcast!

Although it is a struggle to come up with many silver linings to COVID, one silver lining for us at Jeff Levin Coaching is it has given us time in the office to catch up on some things we have always wanted to do. One of those things is a podcast—we are happy to announce The Reconnection Project Podcast series. Read more

Pushing the Reset Button

Pushing the Reset Button

In an April 12, 2020, interview with MSNBC’s Stephanie Rule, New York Times columnist David Brooks said that the coronavirus was like “an x-ray on our society…we know ourselves better when you are in a valley. So I am hopeful that we’re going to have a great reset.”

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Building a Team Culture in the Digital Age: A Program for New Hampshire Athletic Directors and Coaches

Building a Team Culture in the Digital Age: A Program for New Hampshire Athletic Directors and Coaches

Tuesday, April 30, 2019 6–8 p.m.

Victory Club, UNH Wildcat Stadium, 155 Main Street, Durham, N.H.

FREE for all N.H. Athletic Directors and Coaches!

No matter what the sport, young people today—from middle school to Division I—are lacking in two areas: the ability to really bond and create old-school camaraderie and accountability and to generate and enjoy even basic confidence. Coaches are often at a loss how to connect—or even just communicate—with these “Digital Age” kids. Even high-functioning student-athletes today need confidence training that literally gives them the skills and habits of mind to have that ability to shed stress, connect, and behave with true, organic confidence on game day and in life.

In this program, we explore these Digital Age kids and provide concrete techniques for how to communicate with them, motivate them, and get them to bond with each other and your coaching staff.

Speakers Include:

Jeff Levin, Jeff Levin Coaching
Sean McDonnell, Head Coach, UNH Football
Jimmy Lauzon, Merrimack Football
…and others to be announced!

This program explains why modern kids are so different from the players we coached even just a few years ago. The old-school coaching mentality doesn’t always work, and we’ll explain how that came to be. We’ll discuss the issues holding these kids back, what’s keeping teams from building unity, and what adjustments coaches can make to relate better with their players and to get players to relate better with each other. Learn how to build team camaraderie and commitment, and how, by dealing with these Digital Age issues, you can build a team that has as much, if not more, dedication than the teams of old.

Many thanks to Coach Mac and UNH for allowing us to use the Victory Club!

This program is presented by The Reconnection Project: A Jeff Levin Coaching Program.

An RSVP would be appreciated, but isn’t required. RSVP by text or phone call to Jeff Levin at 603-496-0305 or use this contact form:

What is the Weekend Intensive Program?

What is the Weekend Intensive Program?

We designed the Weekend/Family Intensive program for families who are really struggling and need immediate help.

With the Weekend/Family Intensive, Jeff comes to you (or the family comes to him) or uses Zoom to work with the entire family over the course of a weekend. He gives you an evaluation and a lot of feedback, and then works with all parties involved to develop a plan for moving forward.

The Weekend Intensive also works well for families who are not close enough geographically for weekly sessions. Usually, after an intense weekend of work, everyone is comfortable enough with each other for work to continue via Zoom, phone, text, email, etc.

Below is a video where Jeff explains the Weekend Intensive in more detail. As always, feel free to contact Jeff to discuss whether this program can help your teen or 20-something and your family.

Finding Common Ground: A Program for School Administrators

Finding Common Ground: A Program for School Administrators

Finding Common Ground:

Partnering with Parents, Educators, & Students

to Reduce Anxiety & Stress in the Public Schools

March 4, 5-7pm, Puritan Backroom, Manchester, New Hampshire

Sponsored by The Reconnection Project/Jeff Levin Coaching

School administrators are invited to enjoy complimentary hors d’oeuvres and a relaxing, solution-focused forum with your colleagues on the new challenges caused by the epidemic of increased stress and anxiety. The discussion will include:

  • The increasing number of parents seemingly at cross-purposes with school staff.
  • Breaking down the seeming vastness of the anxiety issue into manageable, conquerable steps.

5-5:30: Registration and Introductions

Remarks by Stephen Sierpina, Windham H.S. principal
Jeff Levin, Reconnection Project Founder

5:30-6: Discussion of the issues: How pervasive is the stress/anxiety in your school community?

6-7: Solutions: How can we work over time with parents, our staffs, and, of course, the students to reconnect the school community and reduce student stress, anxiety, and all of the negative behaviors they engender?

Preregistration would be appreciated, but drop-ins are also welcome: Contact Jeff Levin at (603) 496-0305 or at

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Failure-to-Launch Young Adults: A New Approach

Failure-to-Launch Young Adults: A New Approach

When school started, I heard about several kids who went to college—very good colleges to which the students had happily anticipated going for months—and after only a few days, called their parents to pick them up and take them home.

I see this more and more. Some will go back to school. Others will sit in their parents’ basements playing video games, with their parents wringing their hands because they do not know what to do. This can go on for years, and failure-to-launch young adults make up a large part of my business.

What I find when I talk with these teens and 20-somethings are young people who have never faced adversity, are full of shame and doubt, and lack a sense of themselves or autonomy. When I talk with the parents, I find adults who thought they did everything right and are mystified about where things went wrong.

How did they get there? And, more importantly, how to get them past this? Read more