“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
I talk about making dreams come true a lot. That sounds so…frivolous, so hokey—so why do I keep saying it?
Because it is so important to kids’—and adults’—mental health, that’s why. Read more
I was working with a Division I hockey team when an assistant coach asked the D men to stand up. “Now, boys,” he said, “Sit down when I hit the right number. Ready? Hockey is 20% mental.”
No one sat.
He kept going: 60, 70, 80… at 90% his guys started to sit down.
The coach went on to say, “We spend 90 to 100% of our time on our bodies, lifting, conditioning; on our hockey skills, shooting, skating; and so on. But how much time do we spend on our mind and our emotions?” Read more
One thing I ask parents frequently is how much fun their family has. The reply is often that their child loves their organized athletics, or music, or whatever afterschool activity that their child does, and that is fun for their child.
It is true that some children love those activities. But some children don’t. They do them out of a sense of duty. They do it because their parents make them. Or they do them because it has been impressed on them, either consciously or unconsciously, that they have to do it to get into college—for their résumé, in other words. And many of them never tell their parents that they would rather not do them, or do them quite so much. When you have Outcome Fever, it becomes very hard for your kids to be honest with you.
But even if your child loves their extracurricular activity, that is different from plain fun. Unlike organized activities, fun has no responsibilities, such as practicing, attached. Most importantly, the fun I’m talking about has no outcomes attached. Read more
Please join me for a free program on Raising Kids in the Digital Age!
Sunday, June 11, from 3–5pm at Stone L’Oven Pizza, 1649 Beacon Street, Newton, Massachusetts.
Enjoy some wonderful live music while you gain knowledge, share exasperation and joy, discuss the challenges, and acquire support and understanding for the journey of being a parent today.
Interspersing thought-provoking music, lecture, and group discussion, I explain how to lessen the scrapes and bruises involved in parenting in the “Digital Age.” You will leave with some tips for how to safely prepare your kids for a fulfilling and independent life, as well as some tools for you to shed stress, feel empowered, and connect with yourself and your family. See the full flier below.
Questions? Feel free to contact me or use the form below.
Looking forward to seeing you there!
I was recently called in to help an anxious and depressed 11-year-old. When his mother ushered me into his room, I saw an overweight, sad-looking kid. I also saw a guitar and asked him if he played. He immediately brightened up, and we launched into a discussion about music. After a while, and with the expected coaxing, he picked up the guitar and started to play “Stairway to Heaven.” No, correct that: he CRUSHED the tune. When he was finished, he was able to tell me that he wowed everyone when he played it at his school talent show, and we were able to start a discussion about how he was able to do that: what gave him the confidence? And then we were off and running on what was bothering him and how to deal with it. Read more
We have had many requests from student athletes for a more intensive program. Here, now, is the opportunity: a three-day leadership camp for high-school athletes called The Anatomy of Leadership.
This camp is a unique, multi-disciplinary, three-day enrichment program for athletes that teaches them the mental skills to be leaders in their chosen sport.
The camp will include both group activities and one-on-one time with Jeff. Every participant will develop a personalized performance leadership plan on the mental side of their game in order to improve their athletic performance and their lives.
As with all of Jeff’s programs, The Anatomy of Leadership will be inspiring, eye-opening, and, most of all, fun.
What people are saying about Jeff’s leadership program…
I am a senior on the softball team. I just wanted to take the time to email you and let you know that I really enjoyed the leadership workshop with Jeff Levin last night. Going into the meeting I figured it was going to be someone just talking at us giving us pointers on how to grow as a leader on an athletic team. However, Jeff made it so much more than that. The workshop was interactive and everyone participated. I feel like after only an hour long meeting with him I have learned more about myself and how to grow into a better leader than I have in any other way. After talking to a few athletes who were also at one of the workshops last night, I have heard nothing but positive feedback. I just wanted to take the time to personally let you know how much we enjoyed the workshop and how much we learned from it.— Emily M.
The Anatomy of Leadership will be held June 28-30 at Brandeis University, Waltham, Massachusetts. Click here for more information and to register.
How do you define yourself?
That isn’t something many people think about much, but it actually is a crucial question.
First of all, what do I mean by “define yourself?” I am talking about the things that contribute to how you feel about yourself in your baseline state.
Of course, there are lots of things that do this. As I see it, there are two basic categories: things that happen in your life, whether it is something you consciously strive for or something that just happens, and who you are intrinsically. So one is external and the other internal. Read more
In my work with athletic teams and other groups of kids, I have found that even the highest-functioning kids often lack confidence. In today’s highly structured and scheduled world, kids can get pretty far just doing what they’re told and completing tasks, so it sometimes comes as a surprise to both the student—and their parents—when they come up against a situation where deep-seated, steady confidence is needed, but it just isn’t there to be called upon. Coaches and educators frequently bring this up, and it seems as though parents are catching on.
The Confidence Coaching program is the result, and I think it can help just about any teenager or 20-something. If your kid is struggling but not in real trouble, it can help a lot. (If your kid is in real trouble, I can help with that, too, but that requires a different approach.) If your kid is an über-achiever, I think you will be surprised at how injecting a dose of confidence will bring more imagination and joy to their achievements. The program is fun, insightful, and powerful, and most kids love it. It can also be something that friends can enjoy together: the program works great with small groups. Usually it only takes a few sessions to see results.
Want to know whether Confidence Coaching is right for your teenager or 20-something? Give me a call or drop me a text at 603-496-0305, or use the form below to email me, and let’s talk about it.
Here’s the brochure, and FYI — many adults can benefit from Confidence Coaching as well!
Here is more information how I work with teens, 20-somethings, and their families.
The definition of a vow is a “solemn promise,” which implies a conscious decision. Yet what I have found in my work is the unconscious also makes vows, often destructive ones. Uncovering these unconscious vows and then breaking them can be hard going, but it is possible and can be incredibly healing. Read more