Parents

Programs for Parents

Many parents know that many young people today grapple with mental health problems, most commonly anxiety and depression. It appears that most, if not all, struggle with confidence. Many young people themselves know they have a problem. However, almost everyone is at a loss as to why this has happened or how to fix it.

It’s no one’s fault. The causes are societal and global, which not only affect children directly, they cause parents to parent differently, which exacerbates the problem. As a result, many children and adolescents today miss emotional/psychological “lessons” crucial to normal child development and so lack emotional skills that previous generations used to learn by osmosis. This is stressful, and a vicious cycle, because some of the psychological lessons kids don’t learn today are the very coping mechanisms needed to deal with this stress. And many parents are at a loss as to how to help their child or even in some cases contribute to the problem.

Fortunately, children today are hard-wired for connection and growth the same way they have always been. In fact, they crave these things. Therefore, we can remedially teach these psychological lessons and thus dramatically improve the mental health of many of today’s students.

Some of these lessons need professional supervision while they are taught. However, other lessons involve simple, easy things parents can do on their own to help students to feel better, and that is what this program emphasizes.

We wanted to give this program legs so parents have the tools and support they need to implement and install some of these ideas. The program includes

  1. In-person (preferred) or virtual (and recorded) program: I present an introductory program that explains how we got here—the societal causes of this problem and how they have affected young people and adults. I also provide an outline of how Outcome Fever causes students to define themselves by their accomplishments instead of who they are, which is a problem, especially if they fail.
  2. Videos: To reach as many parents as possible, we need to meet them where they are. We’ve created a video series, Connecting the Dots, where I explain WHY young people are so stressed and give everyone tips to reduce that stress. By explaining the societal causes of stress, which are delivered to children and adults constantly through their devices, everyone begins to understand that they aren’t alone, it is not their fault, and there are simple things they can do to feel better. The result is young people (and adults!) who feel more connected and less stressed, depressed, and anxious.

The goal of this program is to support parents so they can support their children:

  1. Their kids are physically and emotionally ready to learn every day.
  2. They support their children’s hopes and dreams.
  3. They support their child’s academics.

The focus of our program are the many simple and free things parents can do to achieve these goals. For many parents, it’s about finding a balance between preparing children for adulthood and protecting them from harm. We help parents find that balance.

In the videos, we have specifically come up with free, small, and easy things that almost any parent can do. We like to talk about parents teaching skills so their children know how to take care of themselves physically, practically, and emotionally, as well as parents supporting their children academically. There is a lot of overlap between these categories, and the teaching of these skills will go a long way towards mitigating a lot of children’s anxiety.

Just a few topics that are covered:

  1. Acknowledgement
  2. Respectful accountability
  3. “Controlling the Controllables”
  4. Permission to fail
  5. F.U.N.

My programs can be scaled up or down. Please contact me to discuss your parent group’s or school’s particular requirements. I will be glad to discuss your goals and how we can achieve them together.

Thanks to a generous grant by YouthWell New Hampshire, there is currently some funding in place that covers my fees for Connecting-the-Dots videos. Please contact me ASAP if you are interested in this program and accessing the funding.